So recently one of my best friends has asked me what my perfect date would be. While I've been meaning to blog about things like this for a while, she finally gave be the shove to do it (thanks bb)
Dear future boyfriend,
You should really know what the 17 year old me would want from you. I would want you to take me on an all day date. We would start at 9 am because I'm more or less a morning person (except in the summer when I get on the schedule of a vampire) and I wouldn't want to waste a minute of this day. First things first, we would cook breakfast for ourselves. Deep down I want to be a homemaker of a woman and playing house is basically my dream date, but we'll keep it to a minimum for your sake. While my cooking abilities are limited, hopefully you can keep me from burning the house down. After we make pancakes, we would fry up some bacon (really you would because I'm afraid of grease popping up at me) and then serve breakfast to my parents as well as ourselves. After breakfast we would perhaps watch a bit of the morning news because there's no way I wouldn't eat far too much food. Next, we would pack a picnic to take on our little adventure of a day. I would want you to take me out on the lake on this day. Hopefully I've found myself an outdoors-man but that's not likely since I'm more of an inside kind of gal. If you don't have a boat, going to the beach will do just fine. I don't find fishing to be that enthralling so it would be fine if you left that part out. On the beach, I would want to play. Like joking around, laughing, pushing each other into the water, etc. If you're my boyfriend, you know what I mean by playing. You would bring speakers and we'd play our collaborative playlist for the season. After we picnic, I think we would go for a walk because that's a nice reason to hold hands and enjoy each others' presence. Then we would pack up and get in your car to go for a nice long ride. I like to go out in the backwoods and smell the fresh air and feel the way Wisconsin feels. I don't care how old I am or how long I've been living in Wisconsin at that time, it will never get old to me. At the end of the drive, I want you to drop me off at home for approximately 2 hours. After being awake and excited all day, lord knows I need a nap. When you pick me up again, I'd be wearing a dress and you'd look nice too. Don't forget to tell me I'm beautiful because I've never been called beautiful by a guy before .We would go to a nice supper club for dinner and split a big steak with me because I don't like the potato that comes with it but I love beef. After dinner, I would want you to bring me back out away from the city (but still in a safe area because being out in the dark without cell phone service scares me). If you have a truck, bring blankets and a TON of pillows so we could cuddle under the stars. If you don't have a truck, bring more blankets and more pillows so we could lay on the beach by the lake again and just chill for a while. Cuddle me like you've never cuddled anyone before. I would want to feel so close to you. I would want to feel the way you breathe, the way your hands fit around mine, the patterns on your palms, everything. Talk to me about everything. Tell me you love me that night.
Love,
Your future girlfriend
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Perfect Date
Looking for Love?
17 and a Hopeless Romantic
I've always been the sort of girl who's always looking for a relationship but nothing has ever fallen into place for me. I've gotten close but circumstances like moving have been in the way. I always tell myself that it'll happen when it's meant to be, but its hard not to become impatient. Sometimes I come to weird revelations as to why I'm single or why right now isn't the time for me to be in love. I often tell my friends that I'm afraid to fall in love, which is true to some extent. I know that as a person, I'm not in a place where I'm content enough with myself and my situation to fall in love.
Weird Californian Ways
I have a hard time with the way that people in California go about dating. I'm a true Midwestern girl where boys and girls text each other, even if they're not romantically involved. Boys and girls are friends and hang out with each other without it being awkward. People like to become really good friends before they date. In California, all of those statements are basically reversed. Boys and girls do not text unless they're dating really. The only friend group in my school that hangs out coed is the popular crowd, and my "middle class" friend group only has the boyfriends of girls in it. The thing that I find to be the worst is that people don't become friends before they date. One of my friends here barely knew the guy before they started officially dating and their first few months were basically spent in the awkward stage of forcing the relationship.
Deep down, I know that I'm not meant for Californian boys, and that just makes me feel like I'm even further away from finding love. Its frustrating to be put in a situation where you know there's no hope for finding what you're wishing for.
Why love? Why now?
I know that I'm blessed to have so much love from within my family. I'm so close with my parents and grandparents that in theory I shouldn't have any void to fill by finding this romantic love. For some reason, I feel like love is a part of me that's not completely full.
I know I have the capacity to love someone with my whole heart. I was watching Keeping Up with the Kardashians (what a surprise lol) and it was season 2 where Rob and Adrienne are still together. The way that Adrienne brought out the Rob that was hiding underneath the surface really made me realize that I have so much love to give, I just have to find someone to let me in so that I can give it. Adrienne also said something about how at first, she didn't think that Rob was for her, but after she got to know him, he became the most attractive guy in the world to her. That really stuck a chord with me because I always thought I was weird because the real physical attraction comes after the mental attraction for me.
I know that boys in high school are immature and dumb, but I've only found exceptions to the rule in the Midwest. That's why I want to go back there so badly. It's important for me to have a mature partner because I'm an old soul and wisdom goes a long way for me. Its hard to accept that it will be a long time until I find someone who is a good pairing with my personality since the boys my age will need time to mature.
What I Really Want
This may look shallow but I really need to write down what I need in a relationship. This is by no means a hard and fast checklist for potential boyfriends. I recognize that nobody will have every item on this list and I may be swept off of my feet by someone completely opposite of what I was looking for, and that is okay. For now, I want to keep my thoughts organized on the subject and this is how I want to do it.
- Mature
- Have more common sense than I do
- Takes control and wears the pants (or at least tries to!)
- Playful
- Laughter isn't forced
- Cuddly
- Listens to me and cares about what I have to say
- Respectful
Sadie Hawkins Dance
Yeah so like no. I asked this guy to the Sadie's dance at school. Its one of those big grind fests. I asked him using Krispie Kreme donuts with a sign on the outside that said “I donut know if you want to go with me to Sadies” and the inside said “but it’d be really sweet if you did”.
I asked him on Tuesday and he said “I’d love to” which was pretty adorable. So then I texted him on Thursday about the twinning theme and the conversation was pretty blah. Like not awkward but nothing interesting, special, flirty, nothing. So then comes the dance and I got there before him. I was hot. Like I was the sexiest I’ve ever been. My shirt was pretty open, I had short shorts on, my hair was straight, my makeup was pristine.
So I see him and it was like awkward when we stood there next to each other kind of talking. He asked about the swim meet I had today and I told him that the boys teams won but the girls lost. I asked him about his baseball game and he said they won finally. Then I kinda talked to Sadie while he kinda talked to his friends. Then the DJ got the music started, like the actual grinding music, and it took him a minute or two but he finally asked if I wanted to dance. I said yes of course. So we grinded. At first I think we were pretty off rhythm a lot. I’d find myself staring off and thinking about something else and I’d forget about moving with him. We kind of settled in and got like deeper into the grinding stance. It was good. He kept his hands on my hips. I like circular motions but I don’t think he was a fan of it. He liked the side to side better. A couple of times I grabbed his hands, just because I felt like it, but he didn’t really respond to it. We’d relocate ourselves every once in a while when people got too close. Sometimes I’d lean back into him because I liked feeling his chest against my back but I think he thought he should move back if I do that.
When we went to get water the first two times, we said barely anything to each other. It was so awkward. The silence does not suit us like I thought it would. The third time, I asked him “So whats new?” “Nothing much” awkward silence “hah this is so awkward” and he responded “haha yeah I know” and then I said “just talk to me!” in a nice/cute way and he said “Idk what to talk to you about. There’s nothing new. Just the same old stuff.” At that point it was like wow this is a lost cause, so we went back in and danced again. We were sweaty messes. It was a ridiculously tropical environment in the small gym like it was SO hot and humid. I started with straight hair and ended up with curls by the end.
A lot of his friends would walk by and be like high fiving him so I think they were impressed that he got a date to the dance. I liked that people were supportive of us but I don’t think us is a thing based on how he was tonight. At one point they started playing Summertime Sadness and it started out slow so we (and everyone else) thought it was going to be a slow song so we got in position for that (he was nasty sweaty and so was I) and I had my hands on his shoulders but like wrapped around them from the side, kind of like a hug and he had his hands on my waist. Then the song turned into a grinding song and he kind of smiled and said “well that's not what I thought it would be” and we went back to grinding. When we were grinding it was fine, comfortable, pleasant. But when we weren’t dancing it was like instantly awkward. When the DJ played the last song and said it was time to go home, he just kind of let go of me and I turned and hugged him and said thank you which was (just guess) awkward.
I really made an effort. Like 70% of the total effort. I think he just does not know how to talk/act/be around girls. Like if he was open to fixing or working on it then I’d totally be into him. But from how he was tonight, he either doesn’t like me or doesn’t know how to be around girls. Ugh. That could've gone better. He's the cutest boy ever.
Who is this girl?
- Harperpotomus
- I am a teenage girl on the outside, elderly woman on the inside. I value wisdom, smiles in people's eyes, and oxford commas. Army BRAT, Wisconsinite, and mommy's girl.